Ending a marriage is never an easy decision. A person has to sever the legal contract, overcome the emotional attachment and find a way to put the spiritual component in perspective. None of these actions can be accomplished without a sense of loss being created. But, in the end, there does seem to be a way to handle this emotional endeavor with class and integrity.
There are countless stories of the bitter battles that have taken place as marriages dissolve into anger and confrontation. There are also marriages that end amicably with minimal wreckage. Before beginning the divorce process, an individual should consider asking themselves relevant questions to help determine whether divorce is the right solution. If there are children involved, their well-being alone makes it worth the extra consideration before he or she moves forward.
After careful consideration, divorce may still be the only answer. It will allow individuals to move on and find a better way of living. Now, it’s time to minimize the hurt and anger. Those affected go far beyond the husband and wife. It affects the children, extended family and even friends. In some cases, it might be prudent to consider divorce mediation and see if there is enough common ground in order to avoid a painful divorce battle.
When going through the process, both individuals might want to show respect, empathy and understanding while also trying to make amends where possible. These steps might relieve the anxiety brought on by the divorce. One very important result that comes from divorcing with integrity is the ability to interact with the ex-spouse in a pleasant manner well into the future. A family law attorney could be a vital component to the divorce process by being an impartial third party in the situation. Mediation may be completed successfully with the presence of this legal-minded individual.
Source: The Huffington Post, “Ending Your Marriage With Integrity“, Tammy Nelson, Ph.D., February 04, 2014